"I really don't know if I could be in a relationship with a non-geek. Like me, my husband is also a geek, and it works out pretty well for us. We have many common interests, so if I want to go to a convention, I don't have to sacrifice time with my husband to do it. I'm more of a "Pirates" fan while he's more into "Green Lantern," but at least most of our movie choices are within the same genres: sci-fi, fantasy, comic book and action/adventure.
Beyond that, we understand a few things about each other that non-geeks just don't understand. I know I can't go crazy and spend our rent money on a new costume, but my husband understands that I'd rather have a new outfit for the renaissance faire than a pair of Manolo Blahniks. (Not going to lie, I had to look up the name and spelling, because I'm really not into shoes.)
Similarly, I understand when he needs to geek out over the latest MMORPG (massive multiplayer online role playing game) or splurge on a "Dungeons & Dragons" companion guide. It's cool. I'd rather have custom dice than a designer handbag, after all.
If you can't balance work, relationships and hobbies, it's time to take another approach. Ditch the norm and date a geek. Find a way to incorporate what you love to do with your job, even if it's in the smallest of ways.
Beyond finding compatibility with another geek, I think my marriage and happiness are more about acceptance. Instead of feeling weird about some of my hobbies, I can let my geek flag fly at home. I am with someone who will defend me and my interests. What's more, my husband helps me out with my hobbies by sewing new costumes, offering input on articles about geeky subjects and participating in hobbies and interests with me. It's an awesome way for us to continually learn new things about one another."
I couldn't agree more. And as all of us Anime fans know, you should never feel weird about your hobbies. Instead, be yourself, and leave it up to the other guy be uncomfortable about what you do.
And, um, geek sex is better too... -_^
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My husband and I are geeks too! Honestly, I never understood why anyone would want to be "normal". Normal is so boring! Being married to a fellow geek--even if they're geeky in different areas--is a lot of fun. :D
I wish I knew more geeks outside of the internet. Most people I know either think my hobbies (mostly gaming, anime, and collecting anime figures) are bizarre at best, and downright creepy at worst. Which has unfortunately made me very shy about meeting new people and allowing them to know my true self (nobody at work for instance knows about my hobbies/interests).
And it has made me deathly afraid of meeting woman and allowing them to see my true self, or my gaming room, which is absolutely filled with videogames, anime, and figures. It's difficult for me to imagine them not turning their backs and running without ever looking back after seeing it.
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